We don’t want to be victims, we want to seem strong and in control. This is especially true for men. If we are going to learn things in life we as soon read about it as to experience it in our souls or bodies. Rohr writes “When life is hard, we are primed to learn something absolutely central. I call it God's special hiding place. The huge surprise of the Christian revelation is that the place of the wound is the place of the greatest gift. Our code phrase for this whole process is "cross and resurrection," revealing that our very wounds can become sacred wounds, if we let them."
I believe this has important implications for leaders because if you cannot with vulnerability show your wounds, you will fail to draw others with you. Again, it seems contrary to what we often see or what we think about leaders. “The Jungian aphorism holds true: "The greater light you have, the greater shadow you cast." The search for the supposedly perfect is very often the enemy of the truly good. All "important" people must daily recognize their own imperfection and sin or they become dangerous to themselves and other.
In other words this is not just benign but if you fail to go forward in this wounded way it hurts those you lead. “Either you transform pain within yourself or it is always an outflowing wound.”